As promised here is the convo that led to my being blocked, and then magically unblocked by my W. I got a phone call from my S8 last night asking to please call him back. I sent an email to my W asking her to pass on thanks for the message and please let him know I couldn't call him back because all my numbers were blocked......I then received the last two texts, again out of left field.
Mrs Dev: So (family friend) is taking S4 this week. What's the plan for the next few weeks? I can take him next week by fluke my work schedule works but very rarely will it.
Dev: Awesome. She will help out for two or three weeks. However much Is needed. Once (another friend of Dev) is back from holidays, He will pick up S4 after getting his S5. Some Saturdays we can reciprocate. My mom is good to help when she is back also. (Dev's friend) is good to help most all the time Same with (w of Dev's friend)
Mrs Dev: Like even on my days (Dev's friend) and your mom will help? I doubt your mom.
Dev: I'm sure they all will Ms Dev. I told you I would take care of it. You can pick up, but I don't see it being a problem. With my mom, it's for S4. Dev's friend wants his S5 to have a buddy there anyways. It's all going to work out. Famous last words by optimist Dev
Mrs Dev: Right. Work was saving a spot for me in exec. But those mtgs are Thursdays. And now S4's hockey is Thursday. Yes. I'm sure for S4 it will. For me and our finances it doesn't.
Dev: Sorry Mrs Dev, didn't know that
Mrs Dev: It wouldn't have changed anything if you did
Dev: You asked me about it after our session, you knew the dates. I signed up after talking with you.
Mrs Dev: I asked you what was happening with it. The next thing I new I got an email forwarded to me that he was registered. That email said the times and the costs. I was not consulted on that at all. I never actually said yes or no. Never had the chance.
Dev: A different conversation then I recall outside Mrs Dev. I told you both the times and the cost. And that it started in October. Similar to D6's martial arts which I sent and haven't heard back from you on
Mrs. Dev: Okay Dev. Whatever you say. That's why I need a lawyer.
Dev: Ok, what do you want to do about D6. And the lawyer helps how?
Mrs Dev: I don't matter. Gives me the voice you won't or can't
Dev: Sorry, seems I took care of the transportation issue, but it's still not enough
Mrs Dev: Good bye
Dev: Gotta run Mrs Dev, you need to use your voice. This is the very first time in all of this that you told me about the exec meetings on Thursdays
Mrs Dev: Because I don't need your approval. I should be able to do things in my life. Sorry i don't have a mom to have my kids for sleepovers anytime I want to do something. Blocking you. Email me if you need to get in touch.
Dev: That's not good for communication Mrs Dev.
And then 10 hours later after the phone call from son and my email.
Mrs Dev: Do you need any help with S8 and hockey tomorrow or getting S4 to soccer? You are currently unblocked
So after reading that, I see a few things I would have liked to change. Part of the problem with text exchanges is sometimes you write before a response comes through. Clearly when I read that, I cringe because I don't address some of the complaints my W is making. No Wonka validation. I need to step back and avoid responding till I collect my thoughts I think. The frustration of her asking me to sign him up, and then getting mad at me when it started got to me.
Probably a line like:
Obviously the exec meetings are important to you. I'm sure we can figure out a way to have you attend your meetings and still get S4 to hockey
I need to do more validation and wait to respond to texts so I make sure I am listening.
