I can be the lighthouse but not the tugboat

[daring]

I am so angry, hurt, whatever else I can come up with. Granted this is only the second week that H has fully had the kids and I haven't seen them much. But up until today they always come back to my house in the morning b/c our neighbor takes D13 to school, D16 catches the bus and S7 is picked up by our nanny.
Yesterday all of that happened but I had to leave for work very early so I wasn't home to see them.

This morning around 730 I texted H wondering if they were ok. He said they were fine. D13 was just picked up, S7 would be leaving soon and he was taking S16 to school. The missing detail was he " thought" he had texted me.
I was a basket case- it's not much but just a few minutes in the morning brightens my day. I was expecting it and just felt shattered.
( speaking of shattered if you throw Corelle at a wall it just bounces- must use China)
He apologized and asked if anything else was going on. I said no. He said are you done with me for now? ( meaning talking) I said pretty much yeah.

He texted asking if I wanted to go over and hang with them tonight- I said I had a meeting. He said he didn't know I had meeting.
Then I sent this text:

It was just scheduled last night.
We need to discuss all of this further so that the communication is better. When it is my week you are still over here seeing them a lot. I would like to know when I will and won't see them when you have them. And I don't want to have to rely on a neighbor or my nanny to communicate what's going on but I did just ask our neighbor to give me a heads up so I can prepare for what to expect in case you don't tell me.

Maybe that was anti- DB- maybe not. But I deserve to know and it's true- when I have them he's over and hanging out and it's good for them because they are having such a hard time. But it looks like on his weeks I won't see them much- partially because I try not to intrude. I'm not sure beat next steps.

He hasn't responded to my text.