Glad you're in this for the long haul because this process takes a long time. Since it is such a long haul and you can't predict the future or what her decisions/ time table are what are you doing to work on you?
Any activities you're trying, good books, etc... Do you have an idea of changes you want to see in yourself since you have time to concentrate on yourself? What are traits you wish you had or were better at?
My take on most all these things is you need to figure out who you really want to be and become that person for you. If in doing that your W comes back that's great and you'll now have a strong foundation to start over with. If she decides not to because of her own stuff then you'll still have made strides in becoming who you want to be.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
