Wonka, Sorry buddy but you misread my post! I said that I'm CERTAIN that my W DOES love her D! Of course she does. I'm not that blind. It's not that I think she is some inhuman monster, like I said while I know she loves her D, she is just so self involved at the moment she can't see how her actions can put her D14 in a dangerous sitch.
My exact quote was "I don't think my W doesn't love her D's. I just think she is too self involved to be a parent right now".
I'm not "afraid" of my D at all. I've been here before as I have an older D and learned MUCH about how to best handle the 14-16 years. the last thing she needs right now is me telling her that because I don't "trust" her she can't live with her mom. All that will do is make things worse. The harder you try and "control" at this age the more inclined they will be to act out even more. It took me learning the hard way to find that one out. what she 'needs" is a parent that will at least be present, not left alone every day while she is just discovering boys!
Sorry you misread my post Wonka. The 'rant" was just the fact that since her MLC she just hasn't been at all interested in the parenting part of having kids. doesn't mean she doesn't love them just that she's just too into herself to care very much about doing the "work' of being an actual parent. Not a rant, just the cold hard fact.
