Today/tonight... spent most of the day together under the guise of 'entertaining/casual work/drive' .... when discussed, he said that he chose to be more casual and include me along for the ride as opposed to doing it by himself. That he is taking the time to enjoy the day and not just be work, work, work attitude.
At one point, we had spare time and he jokingly said that we could fool around to kill the time.. I just laughed it off, suggesting that my standards were higher than fooling around in the car or at work. He offered more comfort back at the house. Again, not really taking him seriously.
On our way back to work, he suggested & offered to stop along our way back in the neighbourhood of where I could consider buying a commuter type house (possible good idea for DD starter home). We also grabbed coffee & he had picked up fresh cookies for us to have. He asked again if I was going to his dads T-giving. I said that I had given him the answer the other day. He didn't think I had. Said yes again & that I would like to bring my Mom's pumpkin pie. He said that he had already ordered (from the cookie place) 2 pumpkin pies. I was a little bugged because I really wanted my mom's pies instead of his store bought ones. He insisted that his were homemade too. I recommended that he cancel one & we each bring a pie. Not sure where this ended. He seemed pretty stuck on bringing his ordered pies!
Back at work, it was raining out. We sat in the car...He brought up & discussed how he wants to go soon to Miami and sit on the beach and go out for breaky, sit on the beach, go out for lunch, sit on the beach and then go out for dinner/night life. To leave everything else behind and relax. We discussed previous other fun vacations as well. He waited for me to finish my coffee (much later), and then he got into work mode. Our client arrived and we closed the deal (YAY). While client was gone to the bank, he asked if I wanted to come back to the house to get the vehicle that was there and drive that for the night, I was busy writing the deal and didn't answer... A little while later he asked again... I joked " is that your way to asking if I want to make out or hang out?" ... he clarified that he would like to hang out and go for pizza & beer locally after the client leaves. After the client left, he asked again "so, do you want to have a beer... or..??". I said "I'd actually like a glass of wine", and we then closed up shop & went to the restaurant.. for a light bite & drink. We had small talk, a lot of silence. I brought up his parents relationship & how I think he fears his parents getting too close & his fears of mom wrecking it for them. He prefers that they just be companions. And that they don't have to label it. (he has used that "label" term with me recently too.. I don't like it much, however he referred about living/sleeping together as a difference). I didn't persist the point. I pointed out that the less he does for his mom, how that opens up an opportunity for his dad to step in. He nodded. I think he thinks of ways of how his parents could live together somehow again... if mom wasn't such a pack rat.
The vehicle I was going to drive was back at his place. When we arrived he got it ready & started it for me. As much as I wanted him to invite me in, I guess that was my clue to leave & not linger... He came over to hug. It was a friendly type hug.. not very satisfying... I reached up to give him a more passionate kiss. He kissed back, but stated that after a meal he is not usually in a sexual mood. <<<< WHAT? ok...whatever. I know that if I had asked or commented that I was in "the mood" that he would deliver... but, at least this way I feel at ease that he doesn't appear to be using me for sex. I walked to my car.
I struggled in my head with this one... and went back because I wanted to know "if" I was in the mood would he have delivered?... When I started the convo, a voice in my head said STFU... so, I did.. I found an excuse to finish what I started and then said good bye. (180)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
