Trying Again

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Need some help with crafting a message to W. As mentioned before, W has really done an about face with the way she treats me over the past few months. When she comes to visit, she all but ignores me. It's really like being back in high school again because it's so childish the extents that she will go to i.e. not looking at me/not responding to me when she knows I'm asking her a direct question, etc. Lately, the kids have really been picking up on this and asking me after she leaves why she isn't being nice to me.

I feel the time has come to say something about it and wanted to see if this would be a good note to send to her.

"W, I don't want to stir up any problems, but when I say goodbye to you as you're leaving and you ignore me, the kids notice. They have both said something to me about it. They look to both of us for examples of how we should treat other people. I feel it is important that they see that people should be treated with kindness, regardless of how we feel about them."

Or, should I not say anything at all, STFU, and see how things go once I get back to work? In talking to my DB coach, we both agree that feeling secure financially is a big thing for her. Growing up, her dad didn't always have a steady job and often times spent his money on stuff for him. This meant she didn't get to do a lot of stuff that she wanted to do growing up, like gymnastics.

Anyway, I'm having a hard time separating whether this is a moment where I need to stick up for myself or if this is an emotional response of wanting her to at least acknowledge my presence. Help!