Still feeling good. H had the kids last night, when I left the house this morning he was driving past with the kids, we both stopped and rolled our windows down and said a quick hello. I was very cheery. Feeling back in the 'woman you'd be a fool to leave' space. Also feeling very much like I will be ok no matter what. I have been so freaked by the prospect of the holidays without H. But I started thinking about how that gives me the freedom to do and celebrate in whatever way I want. I love creating fabulous experiences for the kids, like D5's Frozen party yesterday. I certainly don't need H to do that!
^^ now that's more like it, MDU!!! What a sea change from last week. See...you can do JUST FINE without H being in the house. That is a great forward progress for yourself. It just shows that your happiness does not depend on H at all. Happiness is what you create for yourself.
Originally Posted By: mdu
Although H has been pulling away like crazy I'm moving forward and acting "as if" we're still reconciling. He hasn't told me otherwise and until he does my plan is to act as if his latest pull back is just a bump and not the end of the line. So far, I'm not getting the best responses from him but I'm not letting it get me down.
You might want to start keeping a solutions journal and make notations of what takes place & the outcome of each. I've seen many DBers make one outburst to their WASes and it usually sets them back. For instance, Betsey (aka Underdog) noticed that for every outburst she made toward XH, it set her back a good 14 days.
I think it would be helpful to YOU to keep a journal like to keep track of what works and what doesn't work. The one thing I do know for a fact that works is making homemade baked goodies for H.
With Halloween around the corner, you might want to start thinking about something for H. Another homemade bread? Other ideas?
