My thoughts exactly Ss, D14 is a good kid, that's a given. She is sweet and loving and kind but she is also very naive. She has always been in small religious based private school. Her sister got in trouble when she went to just a larger private school. I don't think she is ready to be left alone like she is when with her mother. I re-read my last post and it's angrier than I hoped. I wrote it right after talking to my D14. I don't think my W doesn't love her D's. I just think she is too self involved to be a parent right now. Since she went into her MLC she hasn't been a very good mother at all. For the last year before she left the only talks she had with D14 were her yelling at her over something stupid. When either of our D's wanted to talk to my W, she, 99% percent of the time, would say she was too tired or too busy. She stopped making meals, she didn't do anything with them, she put them last on her list. As far as I can tell nothing much has changed since she left.
This is partly my fault for letting my W have her way and put D14 into a school near her when she moved so far away! I should have fought her, I should have told her it was her choice to move so far, my D isn't going with her. I just wish I could trust my W just a little but I just can't. She has proven over and over again that she can't be trusted, not in the state of mind she is in.
There are no good answers here. At least none that I can see at this point. If I say no to my D14, she will be angry and more inclined to act out. I want to just shake the MLC out of my W. I know it's impossible and just wishful thinking but still.....
