Claire, I got this for Ahoy but when I saw it again I thought of you so I thought I'd share it. It comes from one of Labug's old threads. I originally posted it for T0324 but it resonates a lot for me today, for Ahoy, you, AND me:
If your only reason for being here is to "Save My Marriage" you will be stuck in the same place a year, 2 years, forever. Lay down the save my marriage banner and pick up the one that says "Save Me"
If you're here to improve yourself, get rid of some old baggage and are open to the process you just might create a new life for yourself. It may or may not include your spouse but that might no matter.
Hope this helps...
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15