Do I start 180 at this point?

[Hoju]

Have you considered marriage counciling? I've heard it's great when you have a partner who wants to work on the M. This is your chance to fix things and build a better M, a chance many of us never got.

You're going to need to let her indiscretion go if you want to move past this. Read 5 love languages, it will be a great tool for reconnecting with your W.

Good luck