Hmmm. Well that's unfortunate. Then I would say the same conversation about forgiveness might be appropriate in regards to the her aunt as well.
Not easy for you or your daughter, I know.
I will try but the kids have seen me forgive W so many times and she still left . I'm worried what there thoughts are on forgiveness and where it gets you.
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
I think I'm getting somewhere with detaching,180,gal then I just hit rock bottom and feel like giving up .
What triggers it is the limited interactions that my kids have with W . And how they normally end up with them getting upset at the way W speaks to them or sometimes due to lack of contact either through text/Facebook etc.
I understand from MIL that W is missing the kids so much , but then can't understand her lack of contact . Wondering if the W is having some sort of breakdown or suffering from depression and it's killing me that I can't help her .
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Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Hi south74. Please know we all feel your pain. I have learnt oo here you have to detach Its really hard but your W does not wat to be with you. I hope that's for a short time but you have to accept it is what it' is at the moment. I doubt you will ever know why she did this because she proberbly dosent know herself. The reason for the detachment is mainly for you but to show her that she may not have the option to come home to her loving husband. You made mistakes but SHE decided to have an A. It was a choice For your sake detach. It's heart breaking but it's needed for your sanity and well being. The more you think about it the worse it becomes. So sorry for your pain DETACH and it will help with the pain.
Thanks rd500 Very similar comments to what my kids have been saying to me for weeks. I feel sometimes I need a physiological slap across the face or a 2x4
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Very easy for me to type South74. I have exactly the same problem I know how hard it is. My W left Tuesday and came back yesterday to visit kids and spent the night. I sometimes think she is the first victim of the latest body snatchers Take care mate. You will be happy again one day and so will I.
They have definitely been victims of the body snatchers lol. Or alien abduction .
It's hard not to want answers to questions that I know I shouldn't ask
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
Gonna be a good weekend with lots of stuff planned . D is staying over at MIL with W sat night so gives me the chance to spend an evening with my S . Gonna go to cinema and then hopefully to the pub after .
Feeling better as busy helps a lot .
Me 40 W 37 Together 22 years S18 D12 WaW 12/08/14 after affair exposed , suspected for several months W returned home for 2 weeks to see if can handle family life After the 2 weeks she has left .
