Well, regarding the finances, my personal .02 is that she shouldn't have to worry about arrangements the two of you may have. That being said, if something happens and you are not able to continue them, it will be a life lesson for her.
Originally Posted By: South74
The second issue is that W is very critical of the other performers and this upsets daughter and also think there is still a lot of anger that my D has towards her mum for what has happened . W also wants her sister to come and because of Ws sisters involvement in encouraging A then D doesn't want her there also.
Again, this is just my opinion....
You can gently encourage your daughter to share how uncomfortable her mothers criticisms of other performers makes her. And if she has already tried to do this, work through other ways she might phrase this feedback to her Mom.
Regarding your daughter's anger, this might be a good time to discuss the idea of forgiveness...
Finally - why does your 12 year old daughter know that your wife's sister encouraged her in an affair?
