What perplexes me is how she will not admit to the A with all of the glaring evidence. Text messages in which she says "I love you"to him, pictures of him on her phone, pictures of the two of them, tons of lies and secrets, etc.
That's one of the reasons I think she does still love you. She compartmentalizes, in order to keep the "Shodan" room in her head firewalled from the "OM" room. It's how she allows her affair to continue despite her prior value system.
Or, she's just trying to spare you the add'l pain.
If she hated you, then she'd probably just finally cop to it (while telling you it's all your fault).
