Not much progress

[u-turn]

Dawgy - you know that was not going to help you.

Teaching your son in this manner has to stop as it will perpetuate this kind of behavior.

How will you undo this with him? You have just taught him that it is ok to assault someone and ask questions later. This is not a small deal.

You know she's in an A. you know that there would be a possibility that you would see them together. You must have prepared yourself for this in some way and be at some level of detachment to not allow yourself to lose control.

I agree that you should go let her and go completely dark for your own sanity. Really evaluate if you can detach while you are living together - I don't think that is possible for myself either.

re-group.