Magingmagic, where'dja go??

[makingmagic]

Thank you for taking the time to write that. I wonder if there is a way to actually speak to you "live"... is there?

I am not trying to make you wrong... just accurate. I am really not disagreeing with you on ALL counts, just some. I do NOT want to come across as argumentative.

reading through this situation I think Magic has showed that she is capable of change. Changing direction and prioritizing our needs and wants is good. I would not want to be held to my thoughts and plans and words from a year ago. Nothing can be written in stone.

..... Most of what you posted was my thoughts and feelings and situation from over a year and a half ago. Both my Xbf & myself have grown and changed, including our situation.

For example (reviewing backwards) you are looking at my "piecing" statements from March 2013... as a newbie, I was desperate to think that I was in piecing like many others on this site. I didn't really understand what it was. I was just hopeful to be there based on lip service.

The example I was trying to give about "commitment/monogamous"... 1) was that HE is monogamous & faithful and has been for 20+ years, still & even since BD. I will agree that his level of commitment is not marriage. He still likes to be held within a committed type relationship. He is not a player & does not want to be a bachelor.

2) I will agree that I have been "waiting" for a very long time for my business deal to take place (8 years). When I first came to this site, I didn't even have an agreement in place... throughout this past year, a mediated agreement has been formed (movement).

3) "he is not allowing me to buy a house".... there was nothing to back this comment up.

4) abusive... Bond pointed out how I enabled some "doormat" behaviours, he has since come to respect me.

As mentioned, change & growth has happened.... these statements are old.

I am rushing out the door right now, but will review how I was feeling & see if any of this resonates to my feelings/sitch now. I have not fully read the "abuse" type comments... I am sure there are some truths still in there.