I am going forth with pursuing the D. I would like to do mediation to keep it nice. I know that she is so hesitant because of the kids. She even said to me "do people just stay unhappy in their Ms for their kids?" I said some might but that I don't want that. I am not going to stay in a M when I am unhappy and neither should she. We can work on it and I believe that we have a great chance at a great M, but it will take a leap of faith.
Nothing I say will make her stop the A. Perhaps her love for her kids will get her there. That is my only hope. Right now, she has no love for me. She cares about me but does not love me.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed