still waiting

[Ahoy]

I plan to wait until at least January, and I'll be open to waiting a few more months after that if need be, but I think by January I'll need to know if he intends to work on the relationship or not. Not promising that we'll get back together, just do the work to see what's possible. And be honest.

As for staying together for the kids, I'm not sure how I feel about that. If he returned just for my D's sake then I think that we would probably just divorce as soon as she graduates, and I would have wasted more time with him when I could be out enjoying life on my own or with someone else. If he comes back to work on our relationship, I want it to be because he wants to be with me. I'm sad that daughter might have a broken family, but that is H's choice, and she understands this. I'm not blaming him, but she knows that this separation is his doing.