Had a rough night with D14. She has been acting like a typical teenager (lying about tech use and homework), but I just am not up to the task of parenting a teen some days. I get plenty of lying and disrespect from her father, thank you very much. To feel that I'm losing her (meaning the distancing thing that all teens go through) is just too much for me right now. So we had a big blow up. And then thank goodness I talked to my sister, who spoke with both of us by phone and got us to realize we were both struggling with the same thing and that we should be there for each other. D wrote me a heartbreaking note about how she loved me, and would pick me if she had to (even though I'm not asking her to pick sides and would never do so), and that she is injured by her dad's actions.
She hasn't opened up about her feelings much in the past few weeks, so I'm glad that she's letting me know how she is feeling, even though it is difficult to hear how much she is hurting. She says her dad never asks her how she's doing. She also asked if I would go with her to confront him to see why he is doing what he's doing, why he did it so quickly, and who is this woman whose picture is on his computer screen? I told her I couldn't do that because it would push H further away. But if she wants to ask him questions, that's up to her. I just can't get involved. She said she understood, though she sounded disappointed.
As for the whole photo of possible other woman -- it's not like I didn't have suspicions, but it's still disappointing. And so freaking typical. Good riddance to him!
I give up.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
