How hatefully awful, Mighty! I am so very sorry you and your kids had to go through that. It sounds so much like "the talk" my H and our sons had. It burned then when it happened to us, and it burns just reading your sitch.
Mighty, what Shining said. You are freaking awesome.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R