Well, the retreat would've been wonderful if H was interested in working on our M. He did reveal that he is still seeing the OW and I was not expecting that. He also said that he has a "deep fraternal love" for me but not the kind of love like when "we first met". Therapist asked H point blank "for the sake of integrity" would he stop the A and he said, "no". I am devastated. He said he wants to be friends and will support me financially. At least I don't have to worry about that for now. He tries to come over for a few hours every weekend to see D18, who still lives at home. Also D23 will be home visiting at times as well when he stops by. I told H that he would have to meet the girls somewhere for lunch or dinner or something or I would have to be gone when he comes to the house. It's just too painful for me to see him, and the therapists at the retreat advised me to set this boundary. We have no contact otherwise. The pain of this is excruciating.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
