Newbie Errors- Restarting the R- part 2

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Starsky, I am hijacking this thread. If you could perhaps look at my thread and gv me your thoughts. I am going to make an ultimatum in next few days. My ww.is jekyll and Hyde. A few good days a few bad ones. This past weekend when she took off for a "catch up on work " for the night I had a conversation with her. Used your line about this isn't a motel, your a mother of 3 young children start acting like one or go find somewhere else to live. She ended up coming home for night so I let it die. She did have a lot of work to do and took off at noon said she was going to hotel for 3 hrs to get work done. I didn't say a word and invited some of our friends over to watch fb.games. She came home Sunday as nice as could be came into my room and put eye drops in my eyes from allergies and was pleasant trying small talk. Nice as could be today calling and texting me small talk. I responded to a few and didn't return calls since she didn't leave a message. It seems she gets angry conversation s when maybe she is on way to see om. I am going to talk to her in next few days when she is in a good mood. I am calmly going to say yes we have some problems, but the big problem is the A. I can't or won't pretend it's not going on. If you won't stop it you need to find another place to live. It's a poor example to our kids.I can't live with you and your lies any longer. And don't want the kids to live like this anymore. I have enabled this to go on way to long. If you feel like this is the future you want I won't stop you, however I will do everything in my power to protect myself and the kids from your actions and won't hide it from anyone.