Not saying ignore the situation and just go on as if nothing.....definitely worded it wrong I guess. There is a lot more to it but basically sounds like to make yourself happy and not dwell on negatives. Don't push and cause confrontation, be an active listener control yourself and do not over react w outbursts. Note the times that are good and not good and keep doing things that work....If something doesn't work, then don't keep doing it. It's about changing yourself , not your spouse.

Is that a little more accurate?

me-42
w-33
d-3
together-6
m-4yr
6/1/14-w check out
6/15/14-EA?
8/1/14-mc
9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing
9/15/14-w suggest separation
10/17/14 wife is done
12/13/2014 - wife move out
me file 1/1/15