EA then PA with her ex

[Anaru]

After a bad start today I got my DR head back on. Had a good discussion with my W this evening while out for a 45min walk and realize that so often my pushing for answers and decision is just turning her off.
So the key is just trying to find a productive way to turn off my doubts and fears. It is odd for me to see that, if I listen, my wife is telling me what she needs.
It is a bit of everything at the moment. MLC EA PA and our history of a sex starved marriage.
We agreed that our marriage as it was is over. Maybe we have a shot at making it over anew.
I reflect on one of Micheles posts which is a letter from a man who resolved to be his WAW's best friend regardless of what she did, and so created the changes and space for her to find her way back to him. Maybe that's the road I need to take. Anyone got advice for dealing with the demons & doubts while away on business travel?