Newbie Errors- Restarting the R- part 2

[Bart42]

Thanks, Starsky- it’s a strange dichotomy for me- I’m definitely eager to have the conversation with her, but am not necessarily eager to reconcile. More accurately, if she is 100% up front and honest, I will have an interest, but there has been so much deceit, minimizing, etc. that if I get bullsh**ed again I’m likely to just walk away from the conversation.
Is it unrealistic to expect 100% honesty during the first conversation? I know she’s not going to be pouring her heart out coming clean on all her past transgressions, but on the other hand if she continues her game of minimizing and tries to tell me the A ended months ago I just might lose it. Just don’t know if I’m being realistic to expect sudden, complete honesty, or if it is more of a process with her needing some time (not a lot- maybe a few conversations) to be totally up front with me. At this point I feel BS= D/S, but don’t want to overreact as I’ve come this far.