Shocked and freaked out

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You know your sitch better than me, obviously, but if you were upset by call logs, I see two things from you asking her that:

- She says No. You potentially doubt the answer (to some extent). You mind read and 2nd guess.

- She says Yes. You are upset from the news, come off even more clingy and desperate. You have a setback with whatever progress you've made detaching and 180-ing.

- And either way she answers, you look clingy, needy and desperate. She also feels interrogated and will associate this negative feeling with being around you, making her less likely to want to do so in the near future. The extent of your projected desperation and how negatively she feels about the question is variable (might be a slight impact, might make her want to not be around you for a month), but either way it's negative.

I'm no vet, so I could be way off there. Just my 2 cents.

I would say you're better off not knowing, detaching and being someone only a fool would leave. Fulfill her EN's in whatever capacity she will allow. I think the time for questions about OM should be reserved for the future when she is fully engaged in piecing your M together. And then, only the questions that YOU need answered should be asked.