Magingmagic, where'dja go??

[makingmagic]

I am sincerely sorry if I offended anyone... this was not my intention. I am not trying to make anyone wrong. I am sorry if my exclamation marks came off as screaming... this is not how I was feeling.

I do want to clarify, and YES... I am too close to the sitch. I admit, I am biased but there are some comments posted that are just not true & it may affect a readers next comment or opinion or affect the advice given/received.

There is a difference.

I want truths and facts to be presented.

Off the top of my head there are 4 things that were stated that were not fact.

1) that he is not offering a long term monogamous relationship & hasn't for 20 years
2) that he is not going to put my name or complete our business deal. That I will wait & wait & wait.
3) that he is not allowing me to have my money to buy a house
4) abusive relationship (this may have been stated based on the above statements)

.... ^^^^^ these are not how I feel, but fact.

I feel like the advice given for me is to add pressure/demand (because of 20 years and business) or to run far away from him.

When I have "agreed" with the posters, it is because I can see resemblances or truths to what they are trying to get me to see. However, this does not mean that I know how to handle the situation any better.

I do feel "hooked" by his statement that suggests: the grass isn't greener out there so lets be patient, we have a 20 year history & lets see how it goes...its only been a few weeks (since Aug actually). Don't push it and wreck it. Lets take the time to make sure its right. That I would have to invest and start brand new with someone new anyway. <<<<<< I do feel what he says is true, but it holds me in a standstill position. I can't see clearly.

My understanding is to view this as a NEW relationship. Not back to the old one because we both have changed.

If in a new relationship... time has to happen. You cannot just jump back into a full blown relationship again... Hence, 'piecing' and "take time", "do not rush, be patient" are plastered all over this website. <<<<< I understand THIS too!

I truly appreciate & admire Pearls wisdom & how she handled her situation. She did not want to wait & outlast the MLC. She eventually got b@lls and put her rel'p to the test. Like most others on here, I don't think I am quite capable of doing that... not fully, anyway.

I am not looking for validation (maybe at times, if I do something right)... I do want advice that can help me to get what I want/need in my relationship with him.

I appreciate all the comments/advice given. I hope to receive more.

Please understand that I may counter reply as to hopefully get/give a better understanding...it is not suggesting that someone is wrong, but maybe sometimes what I might add might change the advice given..... just maybe.

Hugs, MM