just hit the 4 week barrier in not talking. i have not checked up on her and she has not on me. my counselor and others can not figure out why she has not filed for divorce yet? she says she is confused and says the affair she continues is going nowhere but refuses to stop. she says the om is going back to his native country- i do not believe it-
can she really be that confused on what do?
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 7 years M: 5 years NO Kids
A/OM: suspected 6/8/14 A/OM: discovered 6/22/14 S: Aug. 23, 2014
So db ers I had an interesting experience yesterday.....w text me on last thurs. For 1st time with communication in 4 weeks. We met yesterday at neautral location. I thought it would be abt. Our apartment situatuon as our lease is up. W walked up and told me she wanted to see how I was doing. She cried off and on for the 30 min talk. I wore new shoes shirt and hat. She noticed.she wants to keep me on her insurance plan. Also offered to have my stuff at the apt. Moved to the new place. I told her I would move it and moved all my stuff out yesterday. She asked and I told her abt my new job as well. She said she is still in counseling every week. I didn't ask ne questions abt. Om and I only asked her 3 total questions. Thoughts??????????????????
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 7 years M: 5 years NO Kids
A/OM: suspected 6/8/14 A/OM: discovered 6/22/14 S: Aug. 23, 2014
w emailed me last week as apartment lease up. in email she said she was very proud of me for getting a new job. also working on GAL still. 7 days without any tobacco use. no longer on antidepressents. sleeping well. overcoming sadness, but transitioning to anger. how do you all deal with the anger? anniversary next friday.......how do you all deal with that day?
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 7 years M: 5 years NO Kids
A/OM: suspected 6/8/14 A/OM: discovered 6/22/14 S: Aug. 23, 2014
You get through anger the same way as sadness... GAL, PMA, focus on yourself. Acknowledge it.
WRT anniversary... I told my friends about it so they would understand if I was a bit moody, and made sure I had great plans for that day. Remembered why marrying him was a good choice (I have grown, enormously, thanks to this marriage), and didn't acknowledge it with him (I would have liked him to say something but he didn't. Classic avoider behavior.)
Great job on all the successes!!
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
