Zimmy,

Glad you are here. You have found the right place.

While I am fairly new here myself let me offer my prayers and sympathy to you because I can definitely relate to what you are experiencing and feeling right now.

A couple of extra suggestions to what Shodan has already mentioned.

1) Find Sandi's 37 rules here:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2250607#Post2250607
I suggest you save them and edit them to reflect your spouses name instead of the pronouns. It was suggested to me and it has helped. Read over them often.

2) Edit your signature line to show some basic info, I.E. Time married, time together, children and ages, when affair was dicovered, etc.

3) Give us some more background on the relationship and what events led up to the current situation.

4) If you are Christian or are in need of some prayer guidance please visit oyr Prayer Circle thread in this section.

5) Post often, even if just to journal feelings, thoughts, and events. It helps you get it out and helps the long-timers here help you better.

It gets better. We all cry and have seriously down days, but it really does get better.


Last edited by Jefe; 10/06/14 05:33 PM.
Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3