Nitty in a Nutshell #2

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I am now branching out in my reading to include "piecing" threads. Raine's thread is especially helpful. I found this quote from TL72* and had an aha moment:

"A Jekyll/Hyde MCLer is full of anger, uncontrollable rage, deep unhappiness, and irrationally thinks the LBS is out to get them so their actions are extreme such as gaslighting, engaging in a "gotcha" game with the LBS, and trying to hurt them in every conceivable way (legally, emotionally, financially).

A kitty kitten MLCer is low-level type of person who is deep into the fog, forgetful, spacey, may engage in occasional spewing, and usually does not engage in gamesmanship with the LBS. Most often the LBS can talk back at the kitty kitten MLCer with some well-aimed "truth darts" without any serious blow backs from the MLCer. The anger and rage aren't the predominant driving forces for the kitty kitten MLCer. Forgetfulness and spacey behaviors are at the forefront for the kitty kitten MLCer.

I have a label I may apply to Mr. Gritty now. He is a "Jekyll/Hyde MLCer."

When he feels vulnerable, he immediately assumes I am out to get him. If he feels he's been hurt, he immediately tries to "even the score".

He was being hard about money (it was all "his" and my share was what he "gave" me). At one point he said he'd fight me "tooth and nail" about any support at all unless I put in writing that I would work 40 hours a week during the entire time I received any support.

And yet he wasn't cruel legally. He did gaslight. Always claimed to "catch" me in lies or attempts to hurt him.

Right now he is Dr. Jekyll. Mr. Hyde reared his head during our fight on Friday night. I need to find more advice about dealing with a Jekyll/Hyde MLCer, especially regarding piecing.