What is going on in their heads?

[shodan]

Zimmy

Sorry that you find yourself here. I am new to this process as well but can offer up some solace and suggestions.

- read the stories on this forum
- read DB and DR
- GAL and Detach
- See a therapist
- find some friends in whom you can confide

This is such a hard thing to do. No one can understand the mind of a WAS. You need to give him space and time. You also need to remember that you cannot control him and his actions. No amount of logic, pleading, etc will win him back. Logic does NOT trump emotion.

Do you have any sense for what could have been wrong in the M? Are there things that you can work on to improve yourself?

I am four months into this process and can tell you that the pain subsides. There are good days and bad days. GALing and detaching makes it much, much easier.