I think the point Mr Bond and 25years (or at least I'll speak for myself that the point *I*) was trying to make is that paying more attention (and writing more) to what you are doing with your kids, Mindsin, or any other GAL activity will help you stop obsessing over your W and her OM.
The point is that you are focusing on the wrong thing-- not yourself.
DBing may or may not save your M, but it will save you if you follow it. Detailing your W's phone records, and paying such close attention to what she is doing or saying is NOT DBing.
