need to GAL

[hope224]

My H is still hot and cold. He says mean things when he is mad. I wonder if he is bipolar sometimes. I don't give in to his arguments. The past week, I texted him by saying that I am not sure if I want to still be intimate with him since I don't feel good about it myself. Then he got mad and started saying it was a good thing I told him because he was trying to see if things were actually going to work out between us. And, he said I pretty much answered his question and he was glad he tried "working it out" but realizes now that it would have never worked. I wanted to compare our "trying" but didnt go there since I knew it would make things worse. He even said we could not be friends and would only want to talk about our child and nothing more and that i was no longer welcome to the apartment.
Then, next day, I had an event that I took the baby with. Usually, we have been spending weekends with H. So, I told him it could be late and that we still needed to go car shopping. I also asked if I could just sleep in the air mattress. Flat NO but several hrs later, for some reason(maybe he got lonely again), he told me I could stay but we'd sleep on the same bed. And he was nice again. The whole weekend was so great. Things actually felt normal after a long time. I didnt discuss much about our R but I teased him about the girl he has been fb messaging. He told me i shouldnt do that because he doesnt want to give me hopes. But, from what i analyzed, he is probably testing how things will go or he is seriously bipolar. He has talked to me about how lonely he is and how he really likes it when we come see him over the weekend. H is not much of a talker, all our M,i've had to poke around to get him to talk about his feelings. I asked him if it was just sexual reasons he wants us over. But, my gut tells me he is considering the relationship. I told him that i am not keeping my hopes up because anything is possible. But, he has admitted that he thinks about normal family life too, all the stuff we dreamed of together.
Also, I wonder if my 180s are really working because he told me yesterday that I have really surprised him a lot last week and he seemed really happy about it.
The one progress in this is that he seems more relaxed and he actually kisses me as a normal kiss and hugs me like he used to. It used to be just sexual past month or so but now he seems more emotional, if that makes sense. He has been really good with the baby too, which makes me happier about this.
But, anyone with H like this...bi polar-ish?