Wow. Been away for a while and I had to catch up; you've had a tough go lately!
First of all, I'm glad that you and your H are ok after the accident. It's horrible and scary, but rest assured that a year from now it will be a distant memory. Just make sure to take no medical shortcuts in getting yourselves back to 100%.
I'm sorry to hear about your D :-(. The saddest part is that the father isn't taking any responsibility. I wish that I had some sage advice, but I have no experience here. I'm sure that after what you and your H have survived together that you will be very supportive of your D and will steer her right.
In regards to your H and his unhappiness at work, I'm glad that with everything else going on that you are taking this seriously. While women tend to feel depression if their relationships aren't going well, most men tend to get depressed when their work isn't satisfying for them. Now that he knows that you will back him in whatever career changes that he may decide to make, you've put yourself on "his side", rather than being another concern that he may have- if that makes any sense. Once his work life is happier, he will be happier in general.
I don't know how you feel about it, but an anti-depressant, for both of you, may help you keep it together with everything that you are going through. I am making NO suggestion that you are weak, far from it, but it IS a stressful time for the both of you, and you are recovering your relationship through it all, too. Your family doctor can prescribe, no need to see a shrink ;-).
I'm very happy to see that you are recovering your life so well! The universe has a way of adding challenge to our lives just when everything seems to be moving along smoothly. I know that you'd like a break, just a solid drama-free year, from life's little plot twists. Then again, that's what makes it interesting....
