Lol....it didn't even occur to me to add the link here.... duh.
I'm learning so much, even UNRELATED to MLC from the some of the best people
Tuff,
It's so difficult when we can't communicate with H. I miss him so much. We leaned on each other for everything. Now he has gone dark. I get what you mean.
I'm finding myself in a similar position now. I had a lot of contact with H over the past 6 months since S when I moved out. I'm grateful for the opportunity to show my changes, but I doubt he had had any growth yet. Now that our house is sold, he has his apartment....I think he is just now starting to figure out what he wants. I've heard from him less than ever this past weekend, almost none...it succcks.
It's not at all like the S I've heard other non-MLC couples go thru. The confusion, push-pull, I want you, I don't....it seems endless.
I'm trying so hard to shift focus. It's not easy, because is know what I want, and I can't have that. I'm also seeing areas now, that I'm not ready....even if H were to suddenly want to R. I'm not where I want to be yet to make is successful. I will need to be stronger and kinder to myself, and keep my boundaries, or it will end up repeating the old R. And illness here again. I ain't doing this again.
Hang in there, tuff. Eric's post is something I read many times.
duh. 
