I just smiled and said "Don't worry, you'll get what you want soon"
That ^^^ is still your hurt speaking. Chances are you are gonna feel this for a while – hence limit your conversation and your words. IMO, it is also on some level an expectation. The faster you lose the expectations, the faster you will really begin to feel better.
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I really want to have one last talk with her though. I would like her to know that while I don't think D is the answer, I don't hate her. That I really do hope she finds whatever it is she is so badly missing in her life.
The talk you want to have is….imo, an expectation again. It could also be your way of closure. I think ya need to do what YOU feel you need to do – with no expectations. Think about it…… chances are you want to say this so that on some level she realizes you’re a nice guy and that you understand. The problem I see, is that chance are she will not see or if she does, she will not tell you. So you may walk into a sitch EXPECTING her to say she is sorry, confused, whatever…and then you may feel worse if she doesn’t. Make sense? That said, you know yourself better than any of us, if you feel you need to have the convo for YOU – then go for it.
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Maybe because it's so "final' once it's at that point, I really don't know.
About the only thing that is final is death. She may wake up next week, next year, 30 years from now…or never. My point is to try and train your mind to really just live in the moment. Just take things one day at a time.
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My glasses broke yesterday!
I have actually seen glasses deals on Groupon…so ya may want to check the site. Maybe you can find a place by you that has a discount.
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Just like so many things in life it's how YOU look at things that make something "good" or "bad".
Very good perspective! Very good. Your W can rewrite history…you do not though.
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It's totally up to me how I see her. It's totally up to me how I see myself. I can choose to be happy or unhappy no matter what is going on around me. I guess it's time to decide to do just that!
I am smiling ear to ear reading this Matt. You are spot on….it is always YOUR choice. So IMO, I say choose happiness. Oh…and two other things….. this whole process, has and will always be about YOU. You Matt and only YOU really decide when the R with your W is over – divorced or not.
Good luck on the job search.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
