Newbie Errors- Restarting the R- part 2

[Bart42]

shodan, I haven't asked for transparency yet as there has been no R talk (or talk about her A ending either- starsky and sandi both say save the A talk for later). Its up to her to raise R and show recognition of the issues and that she has a plan to rebuild trust. If she does that my plan is to listen to what she has to say, then say "hmm, I'd like to think we can save this but I'm not sure- I can't spend the rest of my life not trusting the person I'm with and I'm not sure how we would get back to that place." Let that stew for a few days and then go back with the demands for transparency and NC.