While we an have fun and I personally believe that we have the ingredients to have a great M, with every passing day during which she is in this A and giving her love to someone else, my affection for her wanes.
Good stuff, shodan. You and I both have W's with whom we actually can have a great time and get along with, which is slightly different than many of the WAW's here. The only thing I can add from my noobie's perspective is don't wait too long- once you are in a good place with the PMA and GAL and believe you will be OK without W, consider pushing W to make her decision. I was extremely reluctant to do so, but with Starsky's constant urging, I finally saw the power of the "Love Must Be Tough" approach and I firmly believe my insisting on D Mediation was what put the stress on wife's A that caused it to implode. May not save my M, but it got me out of limbo.
Me: 45 W:43 M: 15, T:21 2 Kids- S-14, D-12 A Started: 10/2013 Discovered as EA: 6/2014, as PA: 7/2014 A changing, not ending Start DB'ing 9/2014 Same house, same bed
