Magingmagic, where'dja go??

[ericmsant2]

MM,

I am sorry, I am confused….on one hand you acknowledge that you are too close to the sitch (see below)

I am very much too close to my situation and therefore value an outsiders opinion.

While at the same token, you write that you need to “clarify”, the “real truth” so that you “could receive more accurate advice”. (see below)

I feel the need to clarify because I feel that if more of what is being judged has more of the real truth, then I could receive more accurate advice.... this is the ONLY reason that I clarify

[quote from MM]Your list of characteristics are your opinion and are not fully accurate, if we are going to review, let's be accurate & honest:[/quote]

Then it appears as if, you begin to rethink your previous comments…about the accuracy of the advice (see below)

was preparing myself to settle in to re-read my posts to review from an unbiased opinion.

Maybe I am wrong, who knows. I am not sure that I can help you and for that I apologize. If your expectation is to receive advice that just supports what it is that you have already decided to do, then IMO, that is not advice that you are looking for - it is validation of the choice that YOU have already made, which is fine.

What I also found was that a few opinions were posted that were not fact based and the other readers were misinformed & it steam-rolled

Honestly, I found this quote quite offensive. I do respect that this is how you feel though.

from Matt……"What offends is that you aren't able to understand that what YOU think is true may not be which is why you need advice in the first place. If you were looking at your sitch accurately you wouldn't need to ask for help at all."….and MM’s response <<<<< SO then, lets look at my sitch accurately!!!

“Look at your sitch accurately”. I am sorry that you feel that way. I can only base my response on what you write. The apostrophes’ at the end of your statement, felt to me as if you were screaming that no one has been looking at your sitch objectively. That IMO, is not the case and quite offensive.

Then you follow with this quote….toward someone who was no longer posting, that someone found to come back and hopefully try and help you….

"From my POV you say that you agree and understand and then you prove that you don't by continuing your same old actions and defending both them and your BF." <<< This is what lead me to want to re-read my posts... I do not intentionally want to defend my actions or his. I just feel the need to clarify sometimes.

You say you do not “intentionally want to defend my actions or his….yet you do. You claim that you want to “clarify” while at the same token you say you are too close to the sitch.

I find your rational, justification, explanations sad and offensive. I am not saying that you need to agree with people – nope. It is your choice to do with the advice what you feel like. It just feels to me, that you consistently tell everyone that they are wrong.

I was going to go back to your original post and create a timeline to show you what I see and what I think (assumption on my part) others see. I do not think that will help you.

If you are happy in your current sitch, then I honestly wish you well. I hope that whatever it is that you are trying to achieve that you achieve it. I really do. I am truly sorry that I was unable to help you. If I said anything to offend you I sincerely apologize.

Good luck.