Walk away partner after 22 years . First post

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Messed up again
Tried to call MIL to ask if cat has calmed down , dropped Ws cat there on Saturday and the Ws sister answers the phone doh,
Asked how cat is and she replies that cat is a but calmer and starting to explore .
So I start chatting and mention how upset kids were at post W made on Facebook and she is saying it wasn't aimed at us but then says it wasn't aimed at the kids . Great so I've become an evil person in my W eyes and OM is more lovely than she could have imagined .

Anyway convo moves onto me being in limbo and her sister says that from what's being said that W is not ever comming home and that she is helping her find her own place so the kids can stay over more often because once again W is in a bad place mentally because she is missing the kids so much .

We'll maybe she shouldn't have made so many bad judgements and had an A behind mine and the kids backs for several months until I found out .
Makes me wonder what would have happened if I never found out .

The W really must be living on another planet if she didn't realise the outcomes of her actions .

And I didn't ask W sister if she was aware if W had seen other man recently .

So I feel like I messed up because I shouldn't have spoken to W sister about how W was and made the comment I hope W sorts her head out and comes home .

Doh