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[25yearsmlc]

rd I use kg too even though I'm an Old Dog, I just translate it for one of only three countries in the world who are rsisting metrification (the other two are Liberia and Burma).

Down to just under 70kg from 86kg.

Speaking of resistance...I was in the LAST class to avoid using the metric system and it has cost me a lot. I'm always stopped short when I travel and have to translate all of it.

I still don't know why we (the USA) did not switch when I was in middle school. We HEARD of the "metric system" as if it was a cool new idea from Europe, NOT the habit of every other nation and the future of the world!!

So for the sake of those of us who missed out on the chance to learn it in school, do bear with us, please!

(But can you admit that a "Stone" is not really scientific sounding either? It reminds me of how many "hands high" OR how "TALL" a horse is, but alas, I digress).


Truth be told, if the grief/heartbreak diet includes eating healthy foods --when we do eat---and is combined with exercise, and eventually allows for decent sleep, we CAN really benefit.

IF we don't get the sleep, or eat decently, then not so much.

When my younger and overweight sister was left by her h, she lost 75lbs in 3 months and NO, that's not healthy to lose in that time period I'd say it was dangerously unhealthy.

In fact, a lot of her hair began to fall out --which is Not a good sign (oh, and not attractive either, which she pointed out repeatedly)

But it reminds me what I went thru when my h left for the adventures of the tundra (and the "Gold rush up THERE!!"--his words)

I did begin to exercise. It was not to look good OR to feel good (at first) but just to reduce stress.

I had so much energy and so much anger fueled anxiety -- it helped to relieve it AND YES, I did look better and to an extent, that really helped me feel better.

Truth be told, I probably looked better than I had in a few years, losing weight, getting outside and putting a bit of color in the cheeks, exercising & getting toned up, in a way that was healthy and helped my posture too.

Yes, the better we look the better we feel (to an extent). Vanity? I don't know, probably vanity and the desire to look good b/c we are women and for better or for worse, we know our looks matter to our h's. So in addition to our egos, it's also the desire to feel desirable.

make sense? I assume men feel the same way, plus my h works out so he IS strong and feels strong and yes, looks strong. I do not mind.

But I do notice how this "external work" affects us internally. And that - is thought provoking...

So I'd get my hair done, get my nails done, bought a few choice outfits and basics for my new thinner ward robe, got 2 new fragrances, which did not remind me of h, but did make me feel attractive and sensual.

Later, when I did date (while sep and that's a whole other story) I wore the new perfumes. And to this day, those make me feel empowered and attractive.

Just rambling with what I Hope is food for thought.

Anyone else want to chime in here? What foods or Scents, exercises, hair styles, GAL activities, clothes to wear, diets to try, OR losing weight or gaining muscle, ETC...

think hard and let us know, ----

what made YOU feel better during the darkest of times??

(Oh, and I think we should focus on the healthier choices available)

However, if punching a pillow helped, by all means let us know!

Any ideas? (Anyone? Bueller???)