Ss, I think you made the best mind-reading play. It's for all of the amazing sex he wants to have with YOU without worrying about contraceptives. That thought does two things: puts a smile on your face and shows you how ridiculous mind reading is. I think the only sure thing we can say about our WAS's is that they don't have a grand plan that they're sure about. Even most of the WAS's who have filed or have already been through the D probably have second thoughts.
you know what you need to do, though (GAL, etc). I totally understand your rut. I was there 2-3 weeks ago. keep pursuing it and it will turn around. Can't wait to hear it when you turn back around. And I know that DB.com says this forum isn't intended for people to meet, but it would be amazing for you west coast gals to find a way to have a girls weekend
For a little entertainment, and to say "at least my M isn't THAT", go see Gone Girl. And if you haven't read the book, read it. Read anything from Gillian Flynn.
Also, I'm not out west, but I go to bed really late, so I seem to be on here at the same time as you guys, too. This forum has been a life saver at times for me
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23