I can be the lighthouse but not the tugboat

[daring]

I am not doing real well right now and if weren't for the fact that it will require major cleanup I could seriously break a few sets of dishes!

Weekend was low key, H came over and did some things around house and got one of our old cars running for S16 to start driving. He was very nice and helpful.
Today we all went to a movie together which was fun.

The he!!acious part of the day started when it was time to get D13 and S16 over to H's apt for the week. ( we are alternating)
D13 threw a fit- said she's not going she hates it etc
I said you have to go, you need to soend time at your dads. She packed but was really nasty to me. I tried to diffuse it saying yo her I know she's hurting and doesn't want this but being mean to me isn't going to make it better.
When we got to H's she refused to get out of my car. S7 was already there so I went up to chat with him while H talked to D13. She still wouldn't go so he had to lift her out of the car. She then started kicking and broke free and walked away. At one point she said she was going to walk home.
I asked what H wanted me to do- I said I'm not leaving yet. He said he could handle her, I said yes I understand that but she's hurt and I want to help and I can't even do that. He was very calm and kind through it all and I kept my composure but I'm sure through the tears and red face he could see I was hurt and very angry. Once she went inside I drive off without even looking at H.

I just don't get how he can sit there so calmly realizing that his choice to tear apart the family is tearing his own child apart and he doesn't even want to fix it. ( I know I'm assuming, it probably does hurt him but he just can't deal with those emotions). It is so unfair that the kids have to be hurt by these adult problems. Uggghh!!
I also have more of an issue because I went through a lot as a kid and never wanted my own children to suffer through the same, and here we are.... H was the same way until the MLC alien took over.
He just texted me to say she was calm watching her TV show but he's sure he's in for he!! soon. Sorry but you deserve it....