Hey Matt. You are sounding good, stronger, steadier.
When I was going through all of this, I made a roadmap of what I wanted to see when I looked back at this time. It was very important to me.
I wanted to see I had acted with dignity, courage, honor and strength. I wanted to know that I did nothing to hurt my son's relationship with his father. It was theirs to forge, but, I did not want to cause any harm to it. I wanted to know that I honored my marriage no matter what the end result would be.
Whenever I wasnt sure of how to act, I looked to my roadmap. Sometimes I made it, sometimes I didnt, but that was always the goal.
Doing the right thing never means at the expense of you. It means that you can look at your actions and not be ashamed of them. It means that you act from a place of strength, not fear or anger.
This crisis happened. It was destined. Nothing you could have done or said could have changed its course. We just dont have that kind of power.
Sometimes stuff happens in life. But how we deal with it..makes all the difference.
The fact that you came to this site..says a lot about you. Most people cut their losses and run.
The fact that you got some 2 x 4's and still came back...says a lot, too.
We can only do the best we can...and hope that peace comes from knowing we did.
