All right, MrBond. Where's your original thread? I'd like to know what you did for 3 years while keeping the home fires burning? Likewise, Starsky's original thread after he was no longer chocolateeyes and had all but given up.

Right now, prior to speaking to the children, PMA'g is out the door. Will start that again on Monday. I am terse, but calm with W. I know I must look like a simmering cauldron. Reality is, I have nothing to be ashamed of right now. I have reevaluated my life and myself. I know what I want. I want this marriage. I want my wife to come back to me. I have no control over anything but myself, and that is harder than anything right now.

Thanks, Nitty for chiming in. I wonder though, even if you knew everything you know now, would you have been able to implement? I have had few signs of hope since BD, and they have all turned out to be a mirage. But I will be a better man.

I have now become the guy I read about in other threads. The one filled with uncertainty. I have children. I will see my STBX frequently. GAL/PMA/180. Don't ask questions. Validate her concerns regarding the children. Remain aloof about my personal life.

And go on living.


Me: 43 XW: 43
T15 M14
D21, SS15, S11, D8
BD: 8/6
EA / possible PA discovered 9/29
D final 10/20