EEEk, I just reread what I wrote above and I'm not trying to imply at all that you don't teach your kids respect, Maybell. Jeez, that came out all wrong. I'm sorry.
I mean to say that in teaching your children mutual respect maybe they could dig deep and talk to their dad whether they want to or not. Make it a family rule for a while, to touch base with the other half of their DNA every day or every other day because YOU find it respectful.