Shakspr #3; Love's Labours Lost

[Nitty]

I hope "the talk" goes okay. My gut clenches when I read of fellow DBers having to do this. So glad my kids are adults.

I remember my dad trying to talk to us about it, when I was 10. I had the mother of all meltdowns. He ended up staying... until I was 18. Not sure if I had anything to do with it or not. He's gone now so I can't ask him.

Hey, I'm slow. I am detaching. I don't know how those of you living through an affair while the H or W stay at home do it.

You would be surprised at what you can do if you think it will help save your M. The problem is: knowing what exactly will help your cause or not. I made a lot of mistakes.

For example, trying to do MC when the PA wasn't over. Not demanding NC with OW because they had to work together. Begging, crying, focusing completely on him rather than on me.

I still don't know how it should've gone down but if I only knew then what I know now...