MrBond. Well put. I will not give anyone an expectation that everything is great. I will not say anything I don't truly believe. Resentment got me INTO this trouble with my S. I'm not going to give myself another reason to get into that mindset.
Because it's not OK. It's not right. I won't give them the impression that it is.
You probably saved me a whole lot of long term trouble. Short term, well, the W ain't gonna like it. But that's her problem. As labug said, she's got her truth. I also have mine.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20