Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 4

[Ss06]

I agree with 25. I can't figure out the direction of the conversation let alone about 75% of the words. Summary would be good rather than a direct copy and paste. It makes it hard to help you if we can't figure out what the heck is being said.

Plus, this is snooping. How does that help you?

[1Wish]

Iwish

Remember the last time you posted a whole LONG texted conversation between you and your w?

MANY folks told you then how hard it was to read. IT's VERY HARD

and it is interesting that you forgot how much it turned us off. We all asked you NOT To do this again. See, most people will NOT Read it all.

You SHOULD EDIT this.

I cannot understand about half of what your wife is saying. English is my first language and I used to teach College English Composition. But these abbreviations are foreign to me & they make it so I have to decipher it and put so much effort just into trying to understand it. It really is like a foreign language to me.

I'm having a very hard time reading the whole thing I THINK the first few comments indicate that she will miss you.
Right?

Why don't you translate a FEW of the most relevant comments she made that you think are important?

Make it easier for us to read, please. Seriously.

I find it hard to read it myself. Its between her and her friend. Im not in it.

Her friends literally just dragging her out of my marriage.

My wife is saying that shes really feeling the pain of divorce now. And that im a great person, how she will miss me. Her friends saying crap like leave him and what not. Her friend never liked me.

What did i ever do to her?

[MrBond]

And what exactly did you get out of that WHOLE conversation? And where did you even get it from? Are you spying on her?

"Her friends literally just dragging her out of my marriage."

Seriously? From what I read, they were just telling her the things that you admitted doing. If your W didnʻt have any doubts, she would have corrected them. The fact is that YOU made her want to leave and her friends are just backing up her decision for support just like your friends would support you.

Her friends arenʻt the problem. You are.

[rd500]

IWish. Hi I have no great insights but others on this board do. Sometimes it's hard to read what the pros on hear say but take it I. The context in which it's given. I find the advise to be invaluable and if you want to DB make a decision to follow the books and the advice on here. You have to pick a path and stick with and see where it takes you. I hope this made sense and I wish you the best

[1Wish]

It does make sense logically. My wife says she doesnt want to start the divorce proceedings yet but wants me to move out and she will get back to me with what she wants to do. She says that i can give her booty calls just for sex :s and she says that it will help to slowly drift away or it will either bring us back together.

She says that if it does bring us back together then ill probz move in and then she will ask me to go again because its just going to be confusions as distance makes heart grow fonder and its false

[rd500]

Hi. I think we all know what you mean but it's back to the same You have to tchoose to DB. And once you do try to stick to the path. I call off the path about 10'times a day and my W if leaving in two days and I will struggle to get back on but we have to I think the big thing is

[rd500]

Sorry. The big thing is to be patient and STFU. I have huge issues with both and I would like to run away from the pain but I choose not to. Stay on here and post often. It really helps.

[Riley]

1Wish,

The WAS having friends that reinforce a WAS's belief that working on a marriage is a bad idea, is normal. Your W was/is looking for friends to comfort her decision to leave a marriage. Its very normal so just let it be, and don't worry about it for now.


Below is your texts edited:

Humaira H: this divorce thing is really getting to me now

Humaira H: It Hurts so much that i wont get to hold him again that ill come home to an empty home from now on.. No one to cook for
Humaira H: Thats my husband right there who ive been with four years... It kills so much i wish it could have worked out
Humaira H: I actually dnt wana loose him henni...

Henni New: this marriage is beyond stable
there is hardly any trust the lies
the manipulation
the simple communication..
hes a dick
hes talkin to his mates about girls
he was never ready for a commitment like married

Humaira H: thats true
theres things about him that i wont find in any other person;
this great person - something that i deserved but never got

I still love him despite everything and letting go is just killin me inside so much!



1Wish,

If these were really taken one night in May, these feelings may be gone by now. Also, one emotionally raw night talking to a friend does not mean these feelings did not change the same day even. Every detail here has to be taken with a grain of salt, so do not let 1 text conversation save or break your will to continue if you feel that in your heart this marriage is what you want.

I would also suggest you read back through this thread and see if you have overlooked other recommendations and ideas that other posters have mentioned. This is a very difficult process, so take your time, take breaks, and pray often.

[MrBond]

"She says that if it does bring us back together then ill probz move in and then she will ask me to go again because its just going to be confusions as distance makes heart grow fonder and its false"

Its false because IF YOU DONʻT CHANGE, SHE WILL BE STUCK WITH THE SAME YOU THAT GOT YOU IN THIS MESS IN THE FIRST PLACE. This is your ONLY saving grace and yet you are wasting it by snooping, arguing back about the advice, etc. instead of just DOING THE WORK TO BE BETTER.

[25yearsmlc]

Bond and Riley make great points.

Plus, if this phone texting happened MONTH AGO - then who cares?

Why are you reading it AND posting it all here now?

Nothing said then, matters now. Seriously. Even if she meant every word, that was in MAY and feelings change fast in these situations-

And you two, you are both so very young. No offense but you both seem a bit immature even for your age. The point is,

Don't worry about what she said to her friend, in May, at all.