It doesn't feel like a fairytale anymore...

[fthnluv]

If you are referring to this post that you made to me

"I guess my confusion lies in the idea that maybe I didn't really know him at all, ever, and that he has always been a totally different person than I thought."

You've known him for 23 years. I'm sure you "know" him. But people change. It's how life is. We all evolve. The advantage you have is the fact that you have been with him for that long. What have his behaviors changed to? What does he like? Dislike? Use those facts to your advantage. Don't overly do it, but apply what you know here and there.

then I'm not really sure how you expected me to respond specifically to that. I took your advice to heart and will use the way I know him to help strengthen our R (for whatever it is now) when I have a chance in the future. I certainly didn't mean to insult you are make you think that I didn't care about what you said, I'm just not sure exactly how I should have responded to that. I guess a "thanks, I'll keep that in mind" could have been said and I'm sorry I didn't and gave you the impression that I don't want or need your advice, that's not the case at all.