Bravo. Getting ready for church now, but I will get back to you later. Yours is at least willing to admit that the changes in you are worth noticing. I never had the anger issues, but check my threads (click on my name at the left, look for "Posts" and choose "This is terrifying..." to follow my path.) I was belittling and resentful at the situations her past caused us. Now that I am on a much better track - something that began happening 2 years ago - she looked around, decided she didn't love me anymore, tried to reignite on her own (she says) and that failed. I got the BD as a surprise.
I also discovered an EA that was possibly a PA as well, about a week ago.
Hang in there.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20